<p> Preface . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . xiv</p> <p>Chapter 1 You Are Who You Are Because of Your Choices . . . . .1</p> <p> A Challenged Beginning. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1</p> <p> Building Resilience and Strength. . . . . . . . . 3</p> <p> Empower Yourself . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 6</p> <p> How Successful People Create Their Success. . . . . . 7</p> <p> Contrast Shows You What You Want . . . . . . . 8</p> <p> Contrast Doesn’t Need to Be Big to Work for You. . . . . . . . 9</p> <p> Push toward Change or Shrink from It,</p> <p> It’s Your Choice. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 11</p> <p> Choose Love When Fear Calls. . . . . . . . . . . . 12</p> <p> Two Operating Models: Love and Fear . . . . . . 13</p> <p> Stay Out of the Bubble, Stay Off Autopilot . . . . 15</p> <p> A Bucket List for Success . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 16</p> <p> Build the Self-Empowered Road to Success . . . . . . 17</p> <p> Happiness First. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 19</p> <p> Getting Down to Work . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 21</p> <p>Chapter 2 You Are a Work in Progress–Challenge</p> <p> Yourself to Get Better . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .23</p> <p> Give Up the Idea That the Way You Are Now</p> <p> Is the Way You Will Always Be. . . . . . . . . . . . 25</p> <p> Practice Self-Control Because It Doesn’t Come Naturally. . . . . . . . 26</p> <p> Use Self-Talk Plus Self-Control to Choose Your Operating Model. . . . . 28</p> <p> Using Emotional Intelligence Helps You</p> <p> Connect with Yourself and Others . . . . . . . . 29</p> <p> Don’t Check Your Feelings at the Door . . . . . . . . 33</p> <p> Build Self-Awareness So You Can See Where You’re Going . . . . . . . . 35</p> <p> Avoid Artificial Limits So You Don’t Get Lost. . . . . . 39</p> <p> Courage and Resilience Will Support You When Things Get Tough . . . . . . . 41</p> <p> Focus and Discipline . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 47</p> <p> Using Discipline to Make Progress . . . . . . . . . . 49</p> <p> Getting Down to Work . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 51</p> <p>Chapter 3 Do You Know What You Want from Your Career and Life? . . . . . . . .53</p> <p> Let Curiosity Lead You. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 54</p> <p> Discovering Your Work. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 55</p> <p> If You Don’t Know, Experiment! . . . . . . . . 57</p> <p> Exposure Is the Key . . . . . . . . . . . . . 60</p> <p> How Parents Can Help Their Kids and</p> <p> Students Can Help Themselves . . . . . . . . . 62</p> <p> Understanding the Work Environment . . . . . . . . 65</p> <p> Outside: The World of Work and</p> <p> Where It Is Headed . . . . . . . . . . . . . 65</p> <p> Inside: Your Strengths and Interests . . . . . . . 74</p> <p> Finding Your Strengths. . . . . . . . . . . . 77</p> <p> There Are a Few Archetypal Jobs . . . . . . . . 83</p> <p> The Need for Both Soft Skills and Technology Skills. . . . . . . . 84</p> <p> The Future Is Uncertain, But You Don’t Need to Be. . . 86</p> <p> Creating a Blue Ocean Career Strategy. . . . . . . . 90</p> <p> What’s Next? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 93</p> <p>Chapter 4 Vision Strategy Execution . . . . . . . . . . . . .95</p> <p> Vision, Strategy, Execution . . . . . . . . . . . . . 98</p> <p> Vision . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 99</p> <p> Strategy . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 112</p> <p> Execution . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 117</p> <p> Map Your Career to Make the Most of Your Desires . . 122</p> <p> How Do You Keep Momentum in a Career? . . . . . 124</p> <p> Build Next-Generation Skills . . . . . . . . . 126</p> <p> Driving Awareness and Your Personal Brand . . . 129</p> <p>Chapter 5 Becoming Your Vision: Aligning Your Behavior . . . .131</p> <p> Use Contrast to Drive Learning. . . . . . . . . . . 134</p> <p> The Learner’s Mindset . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 135</p> <p> Learner’s Mindset and Growth Mindset . . . . . 139</p> <p> Be a Learner to Stay Engaged in Your Work. . . 142</p> <p> Many Ways to Learn and Work . . . . . . . . . . . 143</p> <p> How You Hold Yourself Back . . . . . . . . . . . . 146</p> <p> Blind Spots: Overconfident and Under Sighted . . 148</p> <p> Blind Spots: Under Confident and Over Sighted . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 149</p> <p> Blind Spots: Ego Nurturer . . . . . . . . . . 150</p> <p> Learning as a Core Skill . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 150</p> <p> Love, Emotional Intelligence, and Mindsets. . . . . . 154</p> <p>Chapter 6 Becoming Your Vision II: Articulating Your Brand and Building Your Bench. . . . . . .161</p> <p> Communicating with Others About Your</p> <p> Vision — Sharing Your VSE . . . . . . . . . . . . . 162</p> <p> Developing a Personal Brand Statement. . . . . 162</p> <p> Value Proposition and Making the Match . . . . 164</p> <p> Gathering Information and Writing Your</p> <p> Personal Brand Statement . . . . . . . . . . 165</p> <p> Socializing with Your VSE . . . . . . . . . . . . . 170</p> <p> Working Through the Fear and Enjoying the Process . . . . . . . . 171</p> <p> Purposeful Networking. . . . . . . . . . . . 176</p> <p> Spheres of Influence. . . . . . . . . . . . . 178</p> <p> Invest in Your Relationships. . . . . . . . . . 181</p> <p> Building Your Bench. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 184</p> <p> The Close-In Sphere . . . . . . . . . . . . 186</p> <p> Mentors . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 187</p> <p> The Advisor Sphere . . . . . . . . . . . . . 189</p> <p> The Alliance Sphere . . . . . . . . . . . . . 189</p> <p>Chapter 7 Attitude, Altruism, and Altitude . . . . . . . . . .191</p> <p> Attitude and Altruism . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 192</p> <p> Living with Intention . . . . . . . . . . . . 198</p> <p> Tame Your Mind, Feed Your Heart . . . . . . . 199</p> <p> How Choosing Love Over Fear Supports</p> <p> Altruism and Propels You to the Next Level . . . 203</p> <p> Taking Flight with Outside-In, Inside-Out Thinking . . 208</p> <p> The Inside-Out, Outside-In Career Process . . . 210</p> <p> How to Create Your Dream Job. . . . . . . . 221</p> <p>Chapter 8 Myths and Murders: Getting Past Roadblocks and Barriers . . . . . . . . . .225</p> <p> It’s Not About You. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 227</p> <p> Obstacles . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 228</p> <p> The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly of</p> <p> Mental Habits . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 230</p> <p> Problem Fighter or Problem Solver . . . . . . 236</p> <p> Disengaged or Just in the Wrong Job?. . . . . . . . 237</p> <p> Being Miserable in Your Job . . . . . . . . . 238</p> <p> Self-Destructive Spirals . . . . . . . . . . . 241</p> <p> Fear, Uncertainty, and Doubt. . . . . . . . . . . . 243</p> <p> External Limitations: Mailroom Syndrome . . . . 247</p> <p> Feeling Trapped . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 249</p> <p> Working with Intention . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250</p> <p>Chapter 9 Planning and Making Choices. . . . . . . . . . .255</p> <p> Planning for Balance. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 257</p> <p> A Case in Point . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 260</p> <p> How Planning for Balance Works on the Personal Side . . . . . . . . . . . . . 262</p> <p> To Plan or Not to Plan . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 263</p> <p> Blending Your Life and Experiences:</p> <p> An Older Lifestyle. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 266</p> <p> Saying No Means Not Having to Say You’re Sorry . . . 271</p> <p> Beyond Saying No. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 276</p> <p> Saying Yes or No to New Roles and</p> <p> Stretch Goals: Know Yourself. . . . . . . . . 278</p> <p> Balance Requires Trust. . . . . . . . . . . . 280</p> <p> Contrast and Stress Are the Teachers,</p> <p> Balance Is the Lesson . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 281</p> <p>Chapter 10 Self-Leadership 2.0: Success in the Face of Obstacles . . . . . . . . . .287</p> <p> Self-Leadership When Things Don’t Go Your Way . . . 289</p> <p> -Isms: Sexism, Racism, Ethnocentrism, and More. . . . . . . . . 290</p> <p> Begin with Understanding . . . . . . . . . . 291</p> <p> The Need to Bridge Differences . . . . . . . . 294</p> <p> Self-Fulfilling Prophecies. . . . . . . . . . . 297</p> <p> Handling Gender Bias . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 298</p> <p> Handling the Cultural Bias Toward Extraversion . . . . 301</p> <p> What Do You Do When Things Go Wrong or</p> <p> You Can’t Influence Someone? . . . . . . . . . . . 302</p> <p> The Benefits of a Third-Party Perspective . . . . . . 302</p> <p> Working with Differences in Thinking Styles . . . . . 306</p> <p> Working Around Subtleties in the Workplace . . . . . 308</p> <p> Build Your Bench . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 309</p> <p> Do Your Homework and Share It . . . . . . . 310</p> <p> Volunteering: How Can I Help You? . . . . . . 312</p> <p> Working Around Cronyism. . . . . . . . . . 312</p> <p> Being Open About What You Want, What You Can Deliver, How You Want to Grow, and Boundaries . . . . . . . . . . . . . 315</p> <p> Creating Inspired Success for Yourself and Others. . . 320</p> <p>Endnotes . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .323</p> <p>9781587204326, TOC, 6/3/2016</p>